5 replies to this topic

[Bona]

you been in a relationship for awhile and you fell in love in the beginning, and now time has change and she has picked up a few pounds and has thyroid issues that is causing some issues with her sleeping and putting on too much weight, we don't have any children but I am no longer in love with her not because of her issues but because she really no longer stimulates my thinking. I use too wake up thinking about what I can do on this day to complete our dreams. I don't want to run out on her, but I can no longer put myself to feeling comfortable around her I started drinking thinking that will help me cope, and it hasn't but it has made me late for work, and now I don't have a job, and she is paying for stuff, and I try to help around the house, but it is time for me to feel good about myself again and stop living her guilt and taking her shit, so would I be wrong for leaving?   

[OKUKUSEKU]

Did you sign any contract in the beginning? If not, as it happened initially all of a sudden, so can you walk out freely too. Pour yourself some champaign

[Bona]

I think you maybe right but you don't feel I have any type of moral obligation too her

[abcdapyro]

morally you still have an obligation. but this is just imo.

thats usually the tipping point when you are no longer thinking about the future with her and your having thoughts about stepping out.

i would sit down and talk with her seriously and give it one more shot.

if nothing can happen then that would be the time to leave

[lamarr06]

It would be good for u to do whats best for you and her equally.   I'm sure she knows there is some uneasiness with you and discomfort.   You know if it would be good for you to leave; there is the feeling you feel deep inside that's telling you its time.  Always accept your inner feelings because for the most part its your true feelings.   Morally to me...that would be the best thing to do.  Its obvious you care for her, and want to do whats best for her...good luck and be easy on yourself. 

[Swifthandles]

Yea yall need to communicate about the situation