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[Mizzqt37]

So I am adventurous in the bedroom, my fantasy includes a Chinese swing. I don't mind being in the bed at times, my preference is anything but a stationary surface. I like biting, and shower action, the walls, furniture, car, side of the road with cars passing by. I enjoy sucking dick and really enjoying all of it balls and beyond, how do I get my dude into this stuff? He claims to be a freak but, well a freak to me doesn't have too many no's in the vocabulary.

[BRONXBOY167]

i dunno....what one man won't do ANOTHER MAN WILL.........

just saying...

[sanger]

gat damn, u sound live as fuck. and uhhh i really dont know cuz yo man definitely aint a freak.

 

id say watch porno with him to try and bring out the inner freak. also usually its the reverse where a guy is trying to get the girl to do wild stuff so the usual advice would be to ease it in. so take it slowly 

[Mizzqt37]

@sanger I tried the porno he put it on and walked out!!! lol I'm like really hello 

[Mizzqt37]

@BRONXBOY167 RIght!! That's the problem he is the only square not so square dude I have ever been with!! 

[sanger]

@Mizzqt37 homie got to be playing mind tricks on you lol. how long this been going on? 

 

id say bring some toys into the equation, and let him use it on you. see what he says then

[Mizzqt37]

@sanger I have all the toys and oils and lingerie, ties no go

[BRONXBOY167]

@BRONXBOY167 RIght!! That's the problem he is the only square not so square dude I have ever been with!! 

"you want the truth.....you can't handle the truth..." if you want me to keep it 100....it could be two things....

1) he has some kind of insecurity issue....(preformance related...scared ect....)    or

2) he might not be that into you.....

i'm not trying to be a A-HOLE or anything....but i don't know of any Dudes who wasn't willing to have fun/turnout their Joint......

just saying.....

[Mizzqt37]

well you know when we first started to deal with one another he seemed to be on board of course at the time he was seeing other women as well. When we became serious, by his choice, that's when things started to dwindle.

[Mizzqt37]

@BRONXBOY167 that's what i thought the not into me thing maybe things had changed, I was ready to walk away quick fast. Then the once in a while turned into why don't you initiate. Initiate then health, head, back. Funny when I say I'm out he suddenly has a great libido. He moved in and makes enough money so that is not a concern, he's willing to play house but house to me must include lots of sex. 

[BRONXBOY167]

well you know when we first started to deal with one another he seemed to be on board of course at the time he was seeing other women as well. When we became serious, by his choice, that's when things started to dwindle.

DEAD MAN WALKING......DEAD MAN WALKING.......

[Mizzqt37]

@BRONXBOY167  I can handle the truth because as you said what one won't another will. All my pics are mine minus the Asian mix, I am not an unattractive female. Having seen some of the other females he has dealt with well hmm, different we will just say that.

[BRONXBOY167]

what does your gut tell you......when a Cat stops smashing you and it ain't because you been playing keep away with the pussy then........and you are willing to more than just the standard smash...........then...........

[Mizzqt37]

@BRONXBOY167 oh behave!!! 

[Mizzqt37]

yes I thought about that trust me I have thought about alot. Hmm I don't know that is an area i have never ever had a problem with ever before.

[BRONXBOY167]

what does your gut tell you......when a Cat stops smashing you and it ain't because you been playing keep away with the pussy then........and you are willing to more than just the standard smash...........then...........

 

@BRONXBOY167 oh behave!!! 

i AM behaving....LOL.... i'm just trying to get to the bottom of this......i must consider All possiblities...

[Mizzqt37]

@BRONXBOY167 LOL I know!! Step over to my other topic and provide insight on that possibility

[iwanthead]

set his ass up with and account up here and tell him to watch and pick something new to try. but definitely doesn't sound like a freak to me...because i'd be down for everything listed and then some!

[Swifthandles]

Watch porn with him and encourage him to try things together

[BooLega]

So i was in the shoes of your dude with my so wonderfully freaky significant other...heres what happened.

 

She expressed her dissatisfaction and i expressed my supression of sexual things beyond what i conceived to be normal

Regardless of how fun, enjoyable, new, refreshing, etc,  i looked at anything outside of what i considered normal as no good/bad/not what i wanted. Which always included the things SHE wanted. 

 

Of course it was not always bad just eventually this became an issue.

 

So back and forth in this tug of war. This is what changed everything, After reading and contemplating (yes i can do that...sometimes), in a nutshell my conclusion came to be this...but before i say that let me say this first....

 

I decided that I wanted to "be successfull" in regards to her and me (partly because i like her genuinely and definitely enjoy her companionship). "be successful" is in quotes becasue i would rather say Love but i think this word better explains simplistically what i try to convey.

 

...back to my conclusion, I concluded that anything she asks i give. I do my best to base my intentions and thinking to be what can i give her for no more reason than she wants/asks for it BUT NOT what do i need from her in exchange for what i decide to give her in return. (I swear, i think most dudes will call me crazy, a sucker  yada yada yada...but  i chose to disregard that.)

 

imho...i conclude the issue comes down to if the man loves the woman he'll give her whatever she asks for. that is if the interaction is one based off of love/"successful".

 

but there is a double edged sword ...some1 will say but wyhy cant she give him everything he wants? easy...give a man everything he wants and imo we will think everything is fine because look at how she treats me. so when a woman does this it sort of backfires, in most cases i would say. So why give the woman everything she wants? because i have come to also conclude that when the man or dominant personality in the realtionship gives the other what they ask of them, because he loves and not needs her, the other will recognize that as this person loves me and will do everything they can to make them happy. but this seems to only work if the dominat personality gives whats asked for even when they think otherwise. 

 

this is how it went with us. she did the things i wanted i thought all was well. it wasnt lol. i started giving her anything she asked / wanted because i said i love her so i will do these things she asks / wants. she is alot happier. i think self-lessly more than the day b4 and she does her loveling actions of looking to be sure i am happy. 

 

so how to solve this dilemma mizzqt? u dont. he does. or he loses :\...i almost did lol

[BooLega]

godddamn...i didn't know i was typing that much lol shit mane!...do you get extra rep for writing a dissertation?! O.o

[BooLega]

imlookin at my own shit like  :3m.bruh:  niggaz aint tryna read all this mane! 

[BooLega]

lol hit the thanks ya bish! 

[BooLega]

oh wait this aint even my topic lol still hit the thanks ya bishes!

[Mizzqt37]

@BooLega well I didn't mind the dissertation and felt Mayr after hearing if your weekend that you would have some answers!! Hit thanks!! Lol

[sanger]

@BooLega damn son. i read all of it though, you make some good points.

[BooLega]

@BooLega damn son. i read all of it though, you make some good points.

i try to do what i can do when i can do it

[DSX]

Perhaps just perhaps your dude has a lot on his mind. Stress sometimes messes with  a man's ability to handle things if you know what i mean. It does affect the sexual drive for some.

[clos13]

Just be straight up